The background and utility of flower essences are described elsewhere.  This page describes the out-of-balance emotions and the NSP line of flower essences to address them.  If, after reading the descriptions, you are unsure which of the essences would be helpful to you, you can go here to do an online quiz for help.

 

Anger

Anger is the energy that pushes things away that we don’t want; things that hurt us.
How we deal with anger affects both our elimination and our immune systems.
Healthy anger allows us to “stand our ground,” to assert our right to our own life, liberty of choices and the control of our own property. Healthy anger allows you to say “no” to that which does not serve your best interests or would cause you physical or emotional harm. Healthy anger can identify exactly how your rights are being trespassed against and by whom. Healthy anger allows you to maintain SELF-CONTROL.

Vented Anger – “Keep Cool” Flower Combination
Vented anger can manifest as violence, threats of violence, deception and stealth, and emotional manipulation. Venting anger is always a sign of a lack of love and respect for others. The “Keep Cool” flower combination contains…

Calendula – helps a person become aware of how their words wound others, promotes warmth and receptivity in communication
Snapdragon – helps a person overcome verbal aggression, promotes balanced communication
Impatiens – relieves irritability and impatience
Grape Vine – helps people who are domineering and controlling to find greater tolerance for others
Willow – helps overcome bitterness and resentment, helps a person be flexible and forgive others
Holly – for those who feel jealous and cut off from love, helps open one’s heart to feeling love
Tiger Lily – softens aggressive and competitive personalities

Suppressed Anger – “Find Strength” Flower Combination
When anger is suppressed, a person has a difficult time saying “no” to others. They sacrifice their own needs trying to please others and to take care of them. Suppressing anger causes you to lose your personal power and allows others to “leach” off of you, which ultimately drains your energy. This results in low energy, which manifests as discouragement, fatigue, loss of enthusiasm and even depression. This loss of energy manifests itself as a lack of immune “shielding,” which can result in frequent infections, parasitic invasions, auto-immune disorders and cancer. The “Find Strength” flower combination contains…

Mariposa Lily – heals the wounded child, helps a person feel worthy of love and the good things they want in life
Pine – for people who suffer from excessive guilt, blaming themselves for the faults of others, promotes self-acceptance and self-forgiveness
Scarlet Monkeyflower – for people who are afraid of their own anger, helps a person face and accept their angry feelings, promotes honest communication
Centaury – for people who have difficulty saying no
Fuschia – for false states of emotionality, transforming anger into tears, helps a person acknowledge and express their real feelings
Pink Yarrow – for “emotional sponges” who soak up negative emotional energy from others due to excess sympathy, helps a person develop healthy emotional boundaries
Goldenrod – helps people who are too easily influenced by others to maintain their own individuality within a group

 

Grief

When we lose something we “love,” we grieve. Grief is actually a form of shock. In shock, the blood retreats from the skin and moves into the internal organs, which creates a swelling sensation in our chest we call “heartbreak,” because it feels like our heart is going to “break.” Grief is more than crying, it is sobbing, wailing, moaning, sighing and even screaming. These actions forcefully redistribute blood to the surface of our body.
Healthy grief is actually an expression of love – of an open, vulnerable heart, capable of feeling love and connection.

Vented Grief – “Release it” Flower Combination

When we vent grief, we place the responsibility for filling the loss we feel onto other people. We don’t want to feel and acknowledge the pain, so we seek sympathy from others as a “drug” to temporarily ease the grief. This can become habitual, so we create a “story” around our victimhood, which we constantly tell, seeking sympathetic allies. We become “victims,” whining, complaining and manipulating others into feeling sorry for us.
The “Release it” flower combination contains…

Self-Heal – helps a person find his/her own inner strength and healing
Love-Lies-Bleeding – for melancholy and anguish of the soul, helps one find meaning and purpose in one’s suffering
Chicory – for possessive, needy, demanding love; helps transform it to selfless love, given freely
Bleeding Heart – teaches the lesson that love must exist in freedom, we can’t control what we love; helps a person “let go” after divorce, death or other losses
Chrysanthemum – for fear of mortality and aging; helps a person identify with his/her spiritual rather than physical nature and accept the temporal (i.e., temporary) nature of the physical world
Borage – for heavy-heartedness; promotes cheerful courage when facing adversity; encourages hope and optimism
Star Thistle – for basing one’s actions on a fear of lack; helps a person trust in God and abundance

Suppressed Grief – “Open Heart” Flower Combination

Sometimes people decide that the pain of grief is a sign that love and vulnerability are dangerous. They close down their hearts to avoid feeling close to anything or anyone.
This causes them to fear love. They become “hard of heart” and lack empathy and compassion for others. A person with a closed heart can become inflexible, rigid and judgmental. Criminal behavior is an extreme example of what can happen when the heart hardens due to suppressed grief. The “Open Heart” Remedy flower combination contains…

California Wild Rose – opens and comforts the heart; primary remedy for healing the heart
Baby Blue Eyes – helps with defensiveness, cynicism and lack of trust; helps one rediscover innocence, the ability to trust and receive love
Yerba Santa – internalized grief and sadness, which causes constricted feelings in the chest; helps a person open up and acknowledge painful emotions, helps them “breathe freely” again
Evening Primrose – helps people who avoid commitment in relationships to commit to the process of love
Pink Monkeyflower – for shame and guilt that keep a person’s feelings hidden; promotes courage to take emotional risks
Golden Ear Drops – Helps a person contact and heal painful, suppressed childhood memories
Star Tulip – Helps people who feel hardened or “cut off” to find spiritual guidance

 

Fear

Fear is the energy we feel when choices need to be made that have the possibility for great reward and/or great pain. Fear strongly affects the systems that regulate body functions, such as the glandular system (particularly the adrenals and thyroid) and the nerves.
Fear and excitement are extremely similar physiological responses; it is how the mind interprets the body’s response that makes the difference. When this energy of fear is channeled into constructive action through exercising courage, it builds excitement and self-confidence.

Vented Fear – “Be Courageous” Flower Combination

When we vent fear, we look to others to tell us how to solve our problems. We aren’t just interested in exploring solutions, we’re literally giving away our power of choice to others, making them responsible for fixing our fears. Excessive worry and blindly trusting “authority figures” are signs of vented fear. The “Be Courageous” Remedy flower combination contains…

Mountain Pride – for vacillation and withdrawal in the face of challenges; helps a person confront and transform challenging situations
Aspen – for fears of the unknown, hidden fears and anxiety; promotes trust and confidence to meet the unknown
Scleranthus – hesitation & indecision, wavering between choices; promotes decisiveness & resolve
Mimulus – for facing known fears; promotes courage and self-confidence
Cerato – for people who are overly dependent on the advice of others; helps people to trust their own inner knowing
Blackberry – for inability to translate goals into actions; helps a person direct their force of will
Red Clover – for susceptibility to group panic and hysteria; helps a person stay calm in a crisis

Suppressed Fear – “Response-Able” Flower Combination

When we suppress fear, we are suppressing an energy that is driving us to “do something.”
This means we need to find something “to do” to channel this energy. Instead of making a choice to do something constructive, we chose to do something to distract us from our fear.
We may eat, drink, take drugs, go shopping, watch TV, play on the computer, count bathroom tiles, horde stuff, engage in promiscuous sex, or engage in any other addictive, compulsive or self-defeating behavior. The “Be Response-Able” flower combination contains..

Black Cohosh – gives people the courage to confront and transform dark, abusive and/or addictive lifestyles or relationships.
Black Eyed Susan – helps a person see into his/her “shadow,” the painful part of their personality they avoid.
Milkweed – overcomes tendency to dull consciousness through alcohol, overeating and other addictions.
California Poppy – helps those who chase glamour, fame and “glitter” to find the true “gold” in their heart.
Agrimony – for people who hide their pain, fear and anxiety behind a mask of cheerfulness; promotes emotional honesty.
Mullein – helps a person be true to his/her conscience; overcomes the tendency to lie or deceive self and others.
Joshua Tree – Helps one separate from dysfunctional family or cultural patterns.

 

 

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